The Lost Art of Lingering

Monday morning I got really angry , I’m talking furiously angry.  The sad part is this came one day after preaching a message from James 1:19-21 on responding to frustrating situations with meekness instead of anger.

So what was it that made me get so worked up less than 24 hours after preaching against anger?  The split screen on my laptop wasn’t working properly while doing sermon prep.

Basically this meant instead of copying and pasting with shortcuts on my keyboard I was forced to (gasp) actually copy and paste using an actual mouse, and click on each application!  The bottom line this added maybe ten-minutes to my sermon prep time which obviously was absolutely unacceptable, so I spent a half-hour trying the fix the problem (and failing).

 The Lord is using this and other experiences to remind me that he fastest way isn’t always necessarily the best

Jimmy Needham wrote a great article on this subject last Thursday called “Learning to Linger in a Spotify World.”  In it he pointed out we as a culture have forgotten what it means to focus on things for an extended period of time (waiting, studying them, and truly listening to what they have to say).  A big part of this is the explosive growth of streaming services

Our age, though, is one of short-form content. We live in a world of bits and bytes, snippets and sermonettes, scores of one-liners—140 characters or less if you please. In the early 2000s, as the capacity for greater bandwidth grew, a new era of audio and video streaming services was born. The internet exploded with on-demand songs and shows. Today, streaming music services are even closing in on iTunes for the lion’s share of the market.

Of course this kind of convenience makes life a lot more comfortable, but it keeps us from lingering or thinking deeply about subjects

It’s natural for us consumers to assume that convenience is progress. Isn’t being more streamlined a good thing? Isn’t it nice to have millions of songs at our fingertips whenever and wherever we want? Perhaps. But at what expense? If easy, cheap access to art causes us to forget how to pause and reflect, ponder and savor, then maybe we’ve gained less than we’ve lost

The thing that hit me most in Jimmy Needam’s article is the belief that convenience or speed is always better than doing a job slowly.  He points out the fallacy of this belief very well.

The best things in life don’t come in an instant but over time, which means we must cultivate the ability to wait, listen, and linger.

In other words we should embrace the habit of doing jobs slowly; evaluating every detail, reflecting on lessons learned, and how we can do better in the future.  This is especially true with things like sermon preparation, or Bible study

Mr. Needam’s article helped me do my sermon prep this morning in the slowest way possible as I lingered over the passage…and I can’t help but think God was Glorified

James 1:19 The Beauty of Self-Discipline in Frustration

James 1:19  Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person hbe quick to hear, islow to speak, jslow to anger;

Recently after long day of traveling and layovers I was waiting with a friend for our final connection excited about finally being able to get some sleep.  As we entered the terminal the airline informed customers on a particular flight that it had been cancelled, and more information would be given in an hour and a half.

As you can imagine this resulted in frustration from the customers waiting for that flight (mostly groaning and shaking of heads) but one women got VERY irate this happened

She proceeded to go on a ten-minute profanity laced tirade demanding her “rights” and getting other people irate as well.  Visits from airline personnel and security did little to calm things down.

Suddenly about fifteen minutes before my flight was supposed to leave they announced the flight that had been cancelled was now LEAVING.  This was followed by an announcement that my flight was cancelled, and more information would be given in about an hour.  Slowly my friend leaned over to me and whispered “I think they gave her our plane!”  Editors note:  I should point out these were small commuter planes and not large ones

My first response to their giving my plane to someone else was frustration, especially since the reason they gave it away was to get rid of the angry woman.  However the more I thought about it, the last angry I became.

Because that’s how it works in the world

If life isn’t fair you scream, yell, and cuss people out while demanding your rights and they will give you what you want.  While It may not be as obvious as giving someones plane away the examples are all around us.

Which is why the command of James to be slow to speak (giving the idea of self-discipline) is such a wonderful thing. 

The world is filled with people who respond to the slightest offense as if their constitutional right has been forcefully removed going from calm to furious in seconds.  But if in the midst of the foot stomping, profanity, and self-indignation they see someone who is calm it makes an impact.

What’s wrong with you?

Your not yelling or angry at anybody

Your not demanding your rights

Your just sitting there calmly

What do you have that I don’t have?  The answer of course is Jesus

James isn’t encouraging us to become pushovers that everyone can take advantage of in life.  Instead his point is our first response to hardship should be bringing our emotions under control and asking “how can God use this for His Glory?”

Why I Did So Much Volunteering

Last year I began volunteering in three local schools through one on one tutoring/mentoring opportunities that would take about two-hours Monday through Friday.  While these did give a few opportunities to share the Gospel, most of the time it revolved around education instead of Gospel centered ministry.

So while I loved working with children I walked away from the tutoring ministry because it didn’t give opportunities to share the Gospel.  At the time  I couldn’t help but be confused about why God led me to do that much volunteering in the first place.

This morning I found out why

Down the street from my house is a small school for children, partway down a hill from there is a childrens daycare center, and the bottom of that hill is a HUGE school filled with young children.  And they are all desparate for people who can help with tutoring.

As I walked by the big school this morning and watched around 100 children play in the large courtyard (we had lost power so it become playtime) the Lord reminded me that His plan is absolutely perfect. 

All of those hours tutoring children with little spiritual fruit just may be preparation for today

  1. When two schools (and another two hills over) less than a five minutes walk from my house need tutors
  2. Which allows me to not only tutor children but also connect with them since they walk by my house each day
  3. And tell them Bible stories on my porch in the afternoons
  4. And pick them up every Sunday in a van so they can come to Tabernacle Baptist Church (which they also walk by every day)

In other words the teaching here won’t be disconnected from ministry since I won’t be coming to the school as “Mr. John” but “Pastor John” and a representative of  a Church in the area.  The good news is my hours of volunteering as “Mr. John” have taught lessons and laid the groundwork so that I can have a strong ministry as Pastor John in the school system.

We all have those moments when we wonder why God has taken us down a particular road.  He doesn’t always give us an answer to our questions right away, but eventually the Lord will.  And in that moment everything will make perfect sense.

James 1:17-18 The Blessing of God always Comes From Above, Never From Below

James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

James 1:18 Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.

David Wells in his book “God in the Whirlwind” makes an interesting point when it says the Love of God comes “from above”

The most important point to grasp here is this: God’s kind of love comes from above, not from below.  We could not make our way back to him, so he made his way to us; we could not make our way up to him, so he made his way down to us.

His point is that this love comes from God’s initiative (He sends it down to us) instead of our own working our way up to earn that love.  James in 1:17 makes the same point by saying every gift or blessing we need to live spiritually comes from God the Father who on His own chose to save us (1:18) Editors note-I don’t believe the word choose in 1:18 refers to the doctrine of election, but God’s willingness to save us before we ever deserved it because we could never deserve it.

This is incredibly important for us to remember while in suffering (the context of James 1:1-18) because it’s in those moments that Satan loves to tell us two of his favorite lies.

  1. God doesn’t really love you
  2. And you could do a better of being God than God

He (satan) will begin by focusing on the part of our life that seems unfair, and plant a seed of doubt in our minds about the love of God.  His first question to Eve in Genesis 3:1 can be phrased, “seriously?  God doesn’t allow you to eat from every tree?  You have got to be kidding me!”  This seed of doubt will eventually make us believe that we can make decisions better than God.

There is just one problem with that

Any attempt to take the place of God completely removes our hope of Salvation

Well’s in his book points out the idea of God coming down to us (through Christ) is the only thing that truly separates Christianity from all other religions that are focused on love that comes “from below” (our works).  If you want to get technical about things the suffering and sin of the world come from below (our hearts) instead of God’s blessing (James 1:14-15)

Even if the temptation of Satan doesn’t come to us (and it usually does) we must continually remind ourselves that the blessing of God comes “from above” because our sin nature wants to take care of things on it’s own.

Don’t worry God I got this

Or “okay Lord you take care of 75% of the problem and I take care of 25% deal?”

And “don’t worry Lord when it gets too hard for me I will let you know”

And so we go on living as if spiritual maturity comes from below.

May God never stop reminding us that our only hope of Salvation and growth in life is by waiting patiently on Him

James 1:17-18 Blessings Come “From Above” and not “From Below”

James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.

James 1:18 Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.

David Wells in his book “God in the Whirlwind” makes an interesting point when it says the Love of God comes “from above”

The most important point to grasp here is this: God’s kind of love comes from above, not from below.  We could not make our way back to him, so he made his way to us; we could not make our way up to him, so he made his way down to us.

His point is that this love comes from God’s initiative (He sends it down to us) instead of our own working our way up to earn that love.  James in 1:17 makes the same point by saying every gift or blessing we need to live spiritually comes from God the Father who on His own chose to save us (1:18) Editors note-I don’t believe the word choose in 1:18 refers to the doctrine of election, but God’s willingness to save us before we ever deserved it because we could never deserve it.

This is incredibly important for us to remember while in suffering (the context of James 1:1-18) because it’s in those moments that Satan loves to tell us two of his favorite lies.

  1. God doesn’t really love you
  2. And you could do a better of being God than God

He (satan) will begin by focusing on the part of our life that seems unfair, and plant a seed of doubt in our minds about the love of God.  His first question to Eve in Genesis 3:1 can be phrased, “seriously?  God doesn’t allow you to eat from every tree?  You have got to be kidding me!”  This seed of doubt will eventually make us believe that we can make decisions better than God.

There is just one problem with that

Any attempt to take the place of God completely removes our hope of Salvation

Well’s in his book points out the idea of God coming down to us (through Christ) is the only thing that truly separates Christianity from all other religions that are focused on love that comes “from below” (our works).  If you want to get technical about things the suffering and sin of the world come from below (our hearts) instead of God’s blessing (James 1:14-15)

Even if the temptation of Satan doesn’t come to us (and it usually does) we must continually remind ourselves that the blessing of God comes “from above” because our sin nature wants to take care of things on it’s own.

Don’t worry God I got this

Or “okay Lord you take care of 75% of the problem and I take care of 25% deal?”

And “don’t worry Lord when it gets too hard for me I will let you know”

And so we go on living as if spiritual maturity comes from below.

May God never stop reminding us that our only hope of Salvation and growth in life is by waiting patiently on Him